Recently there has been a lot of turmoil in my life and it’s the reason I haven’t been writing lately. During this time, I really have learned a lot about myself, my family and my life in general and, although it’s been difficult as we walk through life, it’s the bumps that make us grow.
I’ve recently moved to Leesburg, VA from Bethesda, MD and I had forgotten just how difficult moving could be. I have had a number of surgeries on my back, knees and feet and I felt every one of those places every day. The packing and then unpacking took its toll—I moved from a home all on one floor to a townhouse with 5 landings and boxes that weren’t marked correctly. Ah, but the freedom of de-cluttering and making room for more to enter my life has been wonderful– a lesson well learned from a difficult move!
I hadn’t been in my new townhouse a month, when my brother unexpectedly died in his sleep. His heart just stopped and there’s no other explanation. He was 70, and I was totally shell-shocked and became somewhat depressed. Many lessons learned here—live each day to the fullest, treasure your family and know we only have the present moment so use it all up!
I know, because I did, we live each day thinking we’re safe and in control—look at Orlando! And, we can’t live in fear of what’s going to happen because that takes the joy out of life. I don’t want to live in a world of fear and stress and I’m sure many of you feel exactly the same way.
So… how can you change those feelings and live your life in joy?
I can only say how I did it and maybe some of you will relate or learn a new way. First, I relied on family and friends. My daughter lives near, but my son, who lives in Oregon, flew home and they both supported me during my time of grief. Friends called to chat and kept checking up on me. They even made me laugh-humor is so important in my lifeand should have a place in everyone’s existence.
I used my HeartMath® to relieve stress by using the simple, yet effective techniques to help me become coherent and at ease. They have a game, where by breathing and by visualizing something wonderful, you can float the balloon—I played everyday and didn’t crash once. Their stress-relieving techniques are wonderful.
I used my doTERRA Essential oils for sleep (Lavender, Frankincense, Vetiver and Ylang-Ylang). Balance to maintain my equilibrium. InTune to keep me more focused because grief does a number on your brain. Cheer and Motivate to lift my mood and a number of other oils to support me. I felt like I had an entire army of little bottles taking care of me and making sure my body was functioning at it’s very best.
And, yes, even the unpacking helped—I set a goal of May 31st to be completely unpacked and I did it! Physical work and exercise helped my endorphins and allowed my not to dwell on my grief 24/7.
So, I say to you, there is always a way when the unexpected happens and you do have control to make your way through. If you can’t do it yourself, turn to someone who can help you and don’t be afraid to ask—it’s not a sign of weakness.
I’m always willing to help you relieve your stress with HeartMath® and keep you healthy with doTERRA Essential Oils. I’m only an email away to set up a conversation to guide you- just email me atwendy.martens@
Expect the unexpected, but don’t spend your time being fearful!